Passing Thought Part 1: Friendship

Friendship.
Friends come and go.

Some left scars;
some imparted positive influences;
some just disappeared without a trace;
some appears only when s/he needs you.

I thought to myself.
How many friends do I have?
And how many of those can be regarded as true friend?

Probe deeper.
What are the prerequisites to be a true friend?
1. Trust.
2. Sincerity.
3. Disagreeable.
4. Tells the truth in love.

But a true friend is beyond what are listed above.

S/he is forgiving.
S/he doesn't impose.
S/he is not self-absorbed.
S/he understands confidentiality.
S/he takes initiative to keep in touch with you.
S/he doesn't assume; s/he asks for clarification.
S/he doesn't compete with you in every aspect of life.
S/he listens to your problems of life with his/her heart and mind.
S/he accepts you and willingly works with you on your weaknesses.
S/he carries you when your feet are feeble and fades away after yours become strong.
S/he generously lends you his/her brain power when in need of wisdom or suggestions.

Life without these true friends are indeed very meaningless and lonesome.

Fortunately I have a couple friends who have proven themselves as such.

Lingering Thought Part 1: Home

I walked into the Walgreen store on Jackson street and the radio in the store happened to be playing Bee Gees' Massachusetts, a song I grew up with. Its lyric and rhythm struck me as it always does. Suddenly, a sense of sadness overwhelmed me. Home? Where is home to me? How to define a home? Having been in the foreign land for 15 yrs, and I still try to define my own home? As far as I am concerned, a home has nothing to do with one's marital status... Emotionally, I do feel like those homeless people occasionally..

When my niece and I were in Italy, she frequently mentioned about her homesickness, and I know what she refers to. Personally, is Malaysia or America my home? Or I am still looking for one?.... Perhaps, that is the curse of having too many options.

Though I am still uncertain of my "physical home" on this earth, I am absolutely certain of my eternal home.

Massachusetts by Bee Gees
"Feel Im goin back to massachusetts,Somethings telling me I must go home.And the lights all went out in massachusettsThe day I left her standing on her own.Tried to hitch a ride to san francisco,Gotta do the things I wanna do.And the lights all went out in massachusetts. They brought me back to see my way with you.Talk about the life in massachusetts,Speak about the people I have seen,And the lights all went out in massachusettsAnd massachusetts is one place I have seen.I will remember massachusetts... ".....

Traveling...

Time flies.....
It has been 12 days since I got back from UK/Italy.... To be exact, I haven't done any of my own website programming for 7 weeks. With the completion of the travel blog, I can now go back to my enjoyable routine programming life.. For those who love web programming, realtravel.com is quite a neat tool for travel blog, except its frequent down time and sometime can last 5 to 6 hours.

Below is the link to my travel blog...
http://realtravel.com/europe-trips-i5724506.html